Compatibility Matrix

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Note that all colors from Infrared to Green represent relationships that are difficult, impossible, unrealistic, or unattractive. Only the four squares in the upper right corner represent relationships that truly work — just 4 out of 64!

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It is equivalent to 1 out of 16! Note that Alpha males derive their Alpha status (primordial power) from the Red and Amber levels. Beta males (the feminine man) have areas where their Red power is blocked. Alpha females, on the other hand, draw their power from the Orange and Green levels. Remember, you can have different colors in different areas of life.

If you know your color and your partner’s, click on your combination to learn more about your specific relationship. Below, the colors/levels are described in general terms. Note that this is an evolutionary model: if you primarily identify with Green, you generally master the levels below it, while the higher levels often remain unconscious.

It’s also possible to have lower levels that are not fully developed. For example, Green men often need to work on the Red level to regain their power and ascend to the Teal level. Green women may lack feminine power at the Red or Amber levels — if they fantasize about being swept away by a powerful, handsome man or a prince on a white steed (qualities embodied by a Red Alpha male), they may need to awaken to the Orange level and embrace realism to eventually rise to Teal.

The stages are divided into two groups, reflecting two distinct operating modes of consciousness: being, thinking, feeling, and acting.

1. Tier Consciousness (Divided Consciousness): Infrared, Magenta, Red, Amber, Orange, and Green.
This group represents individuals with only partially developed consciousness. They are divided between what they believe they are and what they believe they are not. This division often leads to indifference, projection, denial, and the externalization of guilt.

In this tier, male leaders are typically at the Orange level, while female leaders span the Orange and Green levels.

Infidelity is common within Tier 1 consciousness, particularly at the lower stages. It becomes significantly less prevalent at the Green stage.

2. Tier Consciousness (Non-Divided Consciousness): Teal and Turquoise.
This group comprises individuals who have progressed through all the earlier levels, allowing major aspects of their unconscious to surface and be integrated. They are more healed and self-aware than those in the first tier, leading to greater personal responsibility. These individuals work, think, and feel with a broader focus, often prioritizing collective or universal interests over personal ones.

People in this tier are not controlled by their Shadow (fear or anxiety). Our future leaders are likely to emerge from these levels.

Although individuals at Teal and Turquoise are often accused of being naive due to their values and morals stemming directly from the heart, such accusations typically originate from lower levels (Red, Amber, Orange, and Green). These critics lack significant contact with the Teal level (The Heart) and, instead of striving to elevate themselves, attempt to pull the next level down to their own. In doing so, they risk diminishing the greater qualities of those higher levels.

To truly grow, one must learn and ascend.

1. Infrared – Instinctive

Sexuality: Focused on survival. The male’s primary contribution to evolution is semen.
Falling in Love/Turning On: Instinctual lust driven by the reptilian brain’s ability to assess a partner’s immune defense via pheromones. High attraction occurs when the partner’s immune system is significantly different from one’s own. Conversely, no attraction arises if the immune systems are identical.
Strengths: Strong instincts.
Weaknesses: Purely survival-focused; exploitation of others.
Examples: Self-centered, lust-based behavior; “me, me, me” mentality.
Psychological Age: Corresponds to the developmental stage from conception to 1 year old.
Evolutionary Level: The Infrared level emerged approximately 50,000 years ago.
Most Active Brain: The reptilian brain.
Values: Survival.
Needs: Food, water, warmth, sex, and safety.
Motivation: Instinct-driven.
Other Characteristics: Life and death dynamics dominate. If this is the sole level developed, it correlates with Alzheimer’s disease.
Population Statistics: Approximately 1% of the adult population in the U.S.

2. Magenta – Instinctive – Magical

Sexuality: Survival and genetically immortality are the biggest factors in red sexuality. Completely unconscious of course.
Falling in love/turning on: Instinctivily lust – chemistry!
Strengths: Sharp senses, close contact to nature, supernatural powers.
Weaknesses: Excessive worship of holy places, rituals, spirits.
Examples: Clans, street gangs, sportsteams, cults, tribes, shamans.
Psychological age – the level on which the attributes of this color is developed: 1 -2 yrs.
Evolutionary level: 10.000 to 50.000 years ago.
Most active brain: Reptilian brain.
Values: Survival
Needs: Safety and security through groups/tribes.
Motivation: Driven by instincts.
Other characteristics: Safety/danger. Survival based on groups, tribes and families. Fight/flight.
Approximately 1% of US adult population.

3. Red – Ego-centered

Sexuality: Sex is used as a means of temporary relief.
Falling in Love/Turning On: Highly projective. Happiness is perceived as dependent on a partner. Initially, individuals see their positive projections in their partner, but over time, negative projections also surface. Partners are expected to bring happiness, leading to infatuation. People often speak of “connection” when they unconsciously agree on a mutual exchange to satisfy needs. This stage corresponds to the “bad boy/nice girl” dynamic.
Strengths: Power, independence, autonomy (often excessive); creativity, spontaneity, innovation, originality; emotional vibrancy, carefreeness, dominance, and aliveness.
Weaknesses: Stubbornness and a desire for control. Quick gratification through sex, drugs, alcohol, shopping, and gambling. Associations include street gangs, narcissism, and exploitative dynamics (e.g., pimp/whore relationships). Focused on short-term actions.
Examples: Rambo, Terminator, Hitler.
Psychological Age: Aligns with the developmental stage of 1–3 years old, where children expect parents to make them feel accepted.
Evolutionary Level: Emerged approximately 5,000–10,000 years ago.
Most Active Brain: The limbic brain.
Values: Ego, power, and action.
Motivation: Driven by unconscious needs.
Other Characteristics: Operates on a good/bad dichotomy. The Red world is seen as a jungle where only the strongest (most fit) survive.
Population Statistics: Approximately 20% of the U.S. adult population.

4. Amber – Mythic

Sexuality: Dominance/submission dynamics. Passion.
Falling in Love/Turning On:
- Her: Romanticized fantasies, often shaped by the collective “princess dream” (ages 4–15) about Prince Charming. She expects to be swept off her feet by a dominant, “bad boy”. She is often shy or innocent in demeanor.
- Him: Alpha male. Wants/needs to be in charge.
Strengths: Stability, security, order, and organization.
Weaknesses: Dogmatism, intolerance, oppression, and irrationality.
Examples: Conquerors, gang leaders, Columbus. Seen in hierarchical structures like the military, government, patriarchal family systems, and traditional businesses.
Psychological Age: Aligns with the developmental stage of 4–15 years old.
Evolutionary Level: Emerged approximately 5,000 years ago.
Most Active Brain: The limbic brain.
Values: Family structures, stability, purpose, hierarchy, law, and order.
Motivation: Driven by unconscious needs.
Other Characteristics: Operates on a true/false dichotomy.
Population Statistics: Approximately 40% of the U.S. adult population.

5. Orange – Rational

Sexuality: Traditional, though sometimes perceived as mundane or uninspired.
Falling in Love/Turning On:
- Men: Balances emotions and instincts with common sense. Seen as providers.
- Women: Also providers but increasingly adopt masculine traits. Women often need sex before they can fully open up emotionally or fall in love.
Strengths: Efficiency, positive thinking, visionary planning, strategic innovation, and a focus on facts. Objectives tend to be long-term. Orange men are popular and socially active, often central at parties and known for their generosity.
Weaknesses: A “the end justifies the means” mentality. Can be cold-hearted, avoids appearing weak, and struggles to understand femininity. Orange men resist transitioning to Green due to fear of losing masculine power, popularity, and income.
Examples: Bill Gates, Einstein, Donald Trump, Obama. Found in Wall Street and the fashion industry.
Psychological Age: Aligns with the developmental stage of 15–25 years old.
Evolutionary Level: Emerged approximately 300 years ago.
Most Active Brain: The cerebrum (Neo Cortex).
Values: Success, autonomy, and individualism.
Motivation: Driven by a need for control.
Other Characteristics: Operates on a win/lose mindset. Competitive and focused on personal success.
Population Statistics: Approximately 25% of the U.S. adult population.

6. Green – Pluralistic

Sexuality:
- Gender roles are reversed, leading to challenges in commitment and fidelity.
- Green men often face impotence, erectile dysfunction, or premature ejaculation, though these issues typically resolve upon transitioning to Teal. They learn about femininity, becoming more sensitive and better lovers than those in earlier stages.
- Green women may struggle with being present during sex, overthinking instead of experiencing.
Falling in Love/Turning On:
- Green men have a strong capacity for love and fall deeply in love but often lack the power to act on it. They may “fall asleep” in relationships.
- Both genders may share a dream of being “swept off their feet.”
Strengths: Affection, care, idealism, and sensitivity.
Weaknesses: Arrogance and a lack of grounding.
Examples: Greenpeace, Amnesty International, Doctors Without Borders.
Psychological Age: Midlife (35–42 years old).
Evolutionary Level: Peaked in the 1960s during the women’s movement.
Most Active Brain: The cerebrum (Neo Cortex).
Values: Animal welfare, ecology, freedom, equality, and humanism.
Motivation: Driven by a need for wholeness, which can lead to identity confusion.
Other Characteristics: Sensitive yet indifferent.
Population Statistics: Approximately 10% of the U.S. adult population.

7. Teal – Integral

Sexuality: Experimentation with tantric practices.
Falling in Love/Turning On: Heart-centered connections with deep presence and purpose.
Strengths: Self-improvement, emerging self-awareness, and the ability to connect with all other “colors.” Breaks free from self-created dramas.
Weaknesses: May feel isolated or alone.
Examples: Individuals dedicated to long-term self-improvement and meditation.
Psychological Age: From approximately 35–45 years old.
Evolutionary Level: Emerged in the 1970s.
Most Active Brain: The frontal lobes (Fourth Brain).
Values: Love, community, compassion, gratitude, responsibility, and flexibility.
Motivation: Driven by the heart’s desires.
Other Characteristics: Represents wholeness and integration, unlike earlier stages dominated by separation and division. Teal individuals take responsibility for their own projections, achieving greater wholeness.
Population Statistics: Less than 3% of the U.S. adult population.

8. Turquoise – Transpersonal

Sexuality: Advanced tantric practices, where energy is recycled within the body, channeled into spirituality, and transformed into love. Men’s contribution to evolution is their purpose.
Falling in Love/Turning On: Presence and purpose guide relationships.
Strengths: Freedom, wisdom, acceptance, insight, and proactive engagement. Focus shifts from ego to wholeness.
Weaknesses: Prone to “inflation” or overestimating one’s abilities.
Examples: Dalai Lama, Ken Wilber.
Psychological Age: 45+ years old.
Evolutionary Level: Emerging now.
Most Active Brain: Integration of all brain regions.
Values: Existential freedom and wholeness.
Motivation: Driven by purpose.
Other Characteristics: Emphasizes global harmony, renewal, and holistic thinking. Balances “being” and “doing” with realism.
Population Statistics: Approximately 1% of the U.S. adult population.

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